Language barely does the job of expressing how we feel; words cannot always convey the depth of an emotion a person can feel at a moment for another person, be it for a friend, a lover or a child. And funnily, as much as we would like to pretend otherwise, the intensity of the emotion has nothing to do with how long you’ve known the person, it could be 10 years or 10 seconds, and your heart won’t know the difference.
The truth is relationships and friendships are not defined by the passage of time, and what sometimes stops us from exploring meaningful relationships is the short time we’ve known the person, and even though it might seem irrational in that moment and our minds condone it; if we listen to our hearts, we will discover something new.
Film-director Hayao Miyazaki said something really beautiful about relationships, “I’ve become skeptical of the unwritten rule that just because a boy and girl appear in the same feature, a romance must ensue. Rather, I want to portray a slightly different relationship, one where the two mutually inspire each other to live – if I’m able to, then perhaps I’ll be closer to portraying a true expression of love.”
I like to extend this definition to all relationships, rather than counting on the passage of time, one must define a relationship by how the person impacts them and inspires them to move forward. It could be 10 years or 10 seconds, if you feel something you should act on it, and you know that it’s the right thing to do because unlike your mind, your heart doesn’t know how to discriminate.